HOW TO WIN OVER YOUR FEARS
If you really want to do something
you will always find a way.
But if you don't want to do it,
you will find execuses.
The easiest way to combat fear is by not using excuses. Instead, you need
to look for positive approaches to accomplish your goal. If you want to
start a business, attend a meeting at the Better Business Bureau. Read some
national magazines like "Income Opportunities" or "Spare Time."
Start reading the business section of your newspaper. Gather some ideas
and do a little reading before actually jumping into a business. Surely
you can find some spare time to read.
Also, begin associating yourself with people who are in their own business
already. If you're afraid to go out and make new friends, attend local
business-related seminars in your community. Start watching television
shows that are related to business. You'll eventually find people to
associate with who know others and you'll be the part of a new crowd -
the motivating ones!
FEAR is always your enemy. Look at it this way: If you never try,
FEAR wins by 100%. However, if you do try, FEAR only has a chance of
winning by 50%. If you needed a place to live and only had $10 to your
name would you allow FEAR to win and make you homeless? No, most of us
would find a job or borrow the money to have a roof over our heads! FEAR
is the root of failure, depression and lifelong problems. Are you going
to let FEAR ruin your life?
FEAR also will cause you to lose out on many other things in life.
If you FEAR the boss at work is going to fire you _ it will naturally
be on your mind day in and day out. It will eventually wear you down and
you will begin making mistakes on the job. You will also get depressed
and build up resentments that may have never been there in the first place.
Facing FEAR head on is the best way to combat it. If you think the boss
is going to fire you _ go up and ask him. It takes guts, but isn't it better
than putting yourself through many months of agonizing torture? Are you
full of so much FEAR to even ask him because you think it will trigger
him to say "yes" when he might not have been considering it at all? Believe
me _ asking a boss "if" they are thinking about firing you will put you
in no different position than you are now. In fact _ it will have the
opposite effect. The boss will more than likely respect you for your
candidness and ability to face FEAR head-on.
Is FEAR holding you back from a lot of things? Are you afraid to confront
people and tell them how you really feel? Do you smile in their face and
talk about them behind their back? What's so hard about being truthful
but using tact? Doesn't it get rid of FEAR and solve many problems?
Complaining is also an act that emotionally drains you and goes
hand-in-hand with FEAR. In fact, FEAR is normally the root of any complaint.
People don't want to admit their FEAR so they will complain to release some
tension. This is a crazy merry-go-round! Instead of complaining, try to find
ways to solve the problem.
